In search for some advise

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February 16, 2019 at 6:50 pm #112492
StuckInTheMiddle

    Thank you very much for your reply. You have given me a lot to read :) but I really appreciate the time you have taken to reply properly. Fingers crossed :)

    February 17, 2019 at 12:39 am #112493
    Oddsocks
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      Lots of good info- just another comment? I’m assuming you are in the UK-apologies if not as some of the info may be different.

      I’m concerned that your brother’s distress is so bad he’s considering self-harming. He needs help urgently to become less desperate. That could be any kind of counselling- even a sympathetic GP could be a good start. It would be a good idea for him to see one soon anyway.

      The Samaritans free helpline is 116 123 . Its for anyone in distress, not only for suicidal.

      Of course, you also need support and its a great idea for you to have some counselling together. That would be fine if its possible to do soon- I’m thinking it might take longer, but that may not be right at all. Certainly good for you to talk through how you are both going to cope with the situation.

      Your GP practice or local health website may have information on counselling available, and how to access it. Unfortunately, there may be a bit of a wait. They may have a range of things, for example online, which may be quicker.

      Does he need to take action about the house soon? If not, it could allow for some breathing space for both of you from feeling overwhelmed about it all. And you can do the counselling and planning.

      Personally, I’d suggest planning on the basis of her not improving. If she does, that is wonderful, and you can reassess your plans. It certainly does happen for some hoarders! But that is out of your control.

      From a counselling perspective, CBT gets mentioned in relation to hoarding. Its also the kind that gets offered most on the NHS for anyone needing counselling.

      I really feel for you both- it must be awful! Lots of luck- take care of yourself!

      February 17, 2019 at 2:55 am #112494
      kaizen
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        I’d like to welcome you too, StuckInTheMiddle.

        I agree with Oddsocks, StS has shared some really good resource material here.

        I also echo Oddsocks‘ comment:

        Oddsocks wrote:


        Personally, I’d suggest planning on the basis of her not improving.

        The best counselor I went to while deciding whether to end a relationship asked me: “Where do you see this in 5 years?” You CANNOT change someone else. They may or may not change. Some one in denial about their surroundings is unlikely to change soon.

        Best of luck & much hope for support to you & your brother!

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