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Drowning91
Oh no CQ!! I am so sorry thats happened!! Its horrible when something happens and it just replays over and over. I have started to realise that not everyone is the same as me in the sense of beinf a kind and considerate person who looks out fir friends. And im trying to accept that people wont always treat me how i treat them. But thats okay. Im definitely someone who holds on to things too but im starting to see the positive in not letting the negatives take up so much headspace. So much so ive actually lost a friend over it. And letting them go has actually made me feel so much better.
I dont think it sounds negative i think its a very realistic way to view it.
Oh well done!! Did you manage 2 hours? I love turning some music on loud and just goinf for it!!
Side note response: i think losing weight is extremely hard (im currently trying to get my weight down) and i think you should draw motivation from wherever you find it!!
Youve got this!!!!
chaosqueen
Okay. Let’s pi** a few people off. What is your approach to weight loss?
Not sure how much of the 2 hours I got done. Just telling you I would do it got me going. Today, new day, new chance. My oldest already destroyed my plan for the day by starting the laundry.
Today I will use my 10 min approach. 10 min in every room. I will start by the front door as I am expecting company in 3 weeks and a hoarder can’t ever start too soon!
Interesting what you said about being better off without your “friend” sounds like it wasn’t much of a friendship. Like my hoard in the basement is no friend of mine, even though it tries to tell me it’s all great stuff. I think I will just leave it to her. IF she contacts me again in a solely friendly way I will keep investing. If it is no contact in 2-3 weeks unless its business I will file it asa connection I have to maintain as long as we are traveling the same distance and part when that is done….
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Im with you!! Ive actually joined slimming world as it seems to be an easier way than counting calories. But im hoping to start being able to do some more movement soon and do some swimming.
I am going to start with half an hour this morning and take it easy.
Youre doing amazing! How did you get on with the 10 min on each room?
Its funny because i always thought they were a good friend but since not speaking to them ive realised that they werent. Which is fine, learning to let go of these kinds of things.
Sounds like a good plan, take things as they come.
The 10 min system works well, as long as I am not working. I’ve been called in to help out in a ward with severe shortage of man power. It is not even remotely my field of expertise so it is constant learning, asking, feeling insecure and that’s tiresome.
Life is not going my way atm, I am rather annoyed with just about anyone, and it’s hard for me to stay nice. The better I know you, the harder it is, which is ridiculous to begin with.
Oh well. Day by day. Right?
Weightloss. I am proud to report that I wasn’t even interested in the big box of pretty chocolates. MY current plan is to not eat unless I am hungry. Sounds silly, but that’s one of my key issues.
Swimming sounds nice. Our Covid numbers are going up fast, so I wonder how long that wills till be an option…I should go while I can…
Sparkle
Hi,
im new to this site and would like some advice/help please.
im planning to do a Homeswap in a few months but don’t want to any unnecessary items/clothes with me but because I have some health issues and I live alone, I’m hoping to get some help with getting rid of these items. Some are worth money so I could probably donate too.
please advise.
Thanks
Hello Sparkle, welcome to the forum. What exactly would you like advice on? You can sell things only or in garage/car boot sales. If you have health issues, maybe you have a friend or relative who can help with selling. You could pay them a part of the profits to do so.
Hi all,
Its been a while….
I have absolutely no update on progress wjich makes me a bit sad.
Our boiler has also broken and trying to mamage getting it fixed which is a bit of a nughtmare.
Im hoping to start again, from the beginning shortly and then i have a lkng break over christmas to also try and clear this place.
Any suggestions of boilers. Im so embaressed to have someone come in the house and extremely worried we need a new one. Currentlt cant get to the radiators.
Hate this situation but maybe thats the emotion i need to stary clearing.
Sorry its been so long.
bluesyjay
Hi Drowning91, I have just read your thread, unfortunately I have no advice on boilers…
Uggh, I know the stress of having to have someone in the house with the extreme chaos, it usually forced me to at least have some sort of organized piled chaos…
do you have a plan, as you me mentioned in earlier messages, maybe you can break down sections to access boiler/radiators?
you can do this!
Hey Bluesyjay,
Well im hoping it came be fixed instead of replaced so the plan is to clear yhe area of the boiler and clear up the bathroom.
If it cant be fixed then its going to take ages until we have heating and hot water. Im praying its fixable.
We know we have to sort the hoarding issue but we are yet to actually tackle it. I have a plan in place for my room but not yet for the rest of the house. Maybe thats something for me to think about today.
Its more my anxiety and embarressment. I just utterly hate people in my house and im trying to find a plumber who we dont know to come and look at it so i can explain the situation beforehand.
IF the boiler isnt fixable, i think ive just got to focus on making paths to each radiator to be bled and accept it.
Hopefully it can be done and i can tackly my hoard at my own pace.
Just very run down with it all and not having hot water or heating has made it worse.
hey, so maybe a familiar strategy could be to take it one step at a time,
like just focusing on the boiler area and bathroom for now?
and maybe where the plumber needs to pass to get access to these two?
I totally get it as this has happened to me more than once that I needed to have people suddenly come in the house and I hate having people in the house. And it’s really bad to be without heat and hot water, sorry about that
Is there something you feel you could be doing today, towards that?
I am very run down myself, I understand
I just changed all the sheets to the comforter (which is very heavy and huge, so it is a workout) I put on a load of wash with the sheets and a load of dishwasher and I feel done!! I also pulled out what I will be wearing tomorrow and the bags I will need.
Now I am taking a break, and I have not even tackled anything concerning the hoard….
if this helps in any way, let me know what your next step could be,
I didnt get a chance to do anything yesterday unfortunately.
Today however i am going to focus onthe boiler area as there isnt too much to do.
Then tomorrow i can blitz the bathroom and hopefully then get someone out.
Its times like this i get extremely frustrated with the state of things but maybe its a kick up the bum i need to change and tackle.
I havent been living in denial but i havent exactly been putting plans into action.
If we can get the boiler fixed (desperately needed due to freezing weather here) then over christmas i have an over 2 week break. Im hoping to really make a difference in my room then but im going to start small before then.
Just need this boiler fixed as soon as possible.
Here is my strategy. Tell them it’s your sister’s house and she is too embarrassed to meet them.
Or your friend’s. Or what ever. Don’t apologize. None of their business. Their boiler is their business. Nothing else. You got this. Think of how much you are a willing to do for a hot shower… I love that strategy CQ! What a brilliant idea!!
I am up, im dressed, i am caffeine fueled and raring to go.
First point of call is my living room. Ive broken it down into sections and will do 3 sections today. Im going to try and handling things once but make decisions on whether to keep or throw. A lot will be kept as a lot are things im using but im going to place them in the room they belong. The living room is first as for health reasons we need to be able to move around. So by doing those 3 areas im helping that.
Tomorrow is getting to the boiler area. I am so determined to have hot running water again that theres no stopping me tomorrow. Ive planned out my day and made sure i have contingencies in case i get overwhelmed.
Hopefully this is the start of something. Im not only fed up with the situation but im also kind of excited – i dont know why, perhaps all the caffeine!!
Ill update you guys as i go!!
So, ive only managed 2 areas BUT theres a chance i might do the third tonight. I had to make a dash to the shops. I managed to pick up some rubbish bags ready to go for tomorrow. I know I havent acheived what i set out to do YET, BUT there is always tomorrow. (Or tonight if i get inspired)
Boiler area tomorrow though – nothings stopping that.
Got a bit overwhelmed today but managed to not let it affect me as much as usual.
Im hoping the momentum continues tomorrow. Im sure it will as the though of a proper hot shower is spurring me on!!
Hope everyone is doing okay – please shout if youre not. Im always checking the site so will always reply.
I didnt finish the third area but i am up early on bare minimal sleep with a coffee in hand.
Today i WILL tackle the boiler area! Its happening, whether my tired self wants it too or not!
If i have enough mental and physical capacity afterwards then i will tackle that third area. I dont want to work on it first as want to do my hardest task first to get it out the way.
I made a huge to do list yesterday which could have been overwhelming but i broke it all down thoroughly and decided on how and when to work on small areas at a time. It makes me feel more in control and i love ticking it off.
Ive realised that im an extreme perfectionist which sounds good but is actually hindering me quite considerably. It means that i wouldnt normally work on small areas at a time. I wait for the perfect time to attack and then im extremely hard on myself because i didnt get everything done or i didnt make enough process. Im learning that there will mever be the perfect time and if i wait for that, then im wasting my life. So now im working on acheiving little and often, Being okay with ‘failures’ and actually starting. Another thing is that becaise im scared to ‘fail’ i actually put off what i need to do rather than do it, do it wrong or badly and getting over it but carrying on.
Anyways a lot of me rambling today. Ive got to get a move on – BOILER AREA LETS GO!!
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